I want to be the best mama I can be. I am one of those “I always wanted to be a mom” people. I’m a mess of wanting so badly to own that statement and feeling silly writing it all at the same time. Early in our dating life, I once told my husband that I felt like I was born to be a mom. So sincerely that I chose my career around learning about kids. I am a pediatric occupational therapist by trade and I feel like my job was practice parenting, except only the easier parts because I could give the kids back after a difficult session and head home to my own quiet house. Becoming a parent has made me a better therapist. I get it. And boy am I embarassed at some of the things I have suggested to parents in the past. I now understand that I should have started our conversation with “How many times were you up last night?” or “Did your toddler act like a total shit head when it was time to go to bed last night?”.
I am starting a blog because:
a) I think it’s important that parents have access to up to date, evidence based information that crosses the spectrum of parenting philosophies. Hopefully I can provide ideas for where to find this.
b) I often think of the age old statement “it takes a village to raise a child”. I think our parenting culture has changed from this ideal and what resonates with me is the idea of a mama village. I need a mama village. I am sincerely grateful for my mom and the mamas who are on this journey with me. I need my mama guru community to remind me that just because my neandrathal 2 year old has just shaken in fury over the wrong color tights, I do not suck at this job. I need to know that other parents have also found tricks to only shower every 2nd or 3rd day, and that they also think this is okay and normal. We all don’t have the luxury of having friends that have kids at the same time as us. I hope that this can be a forum for a mama village, or at least a place to go for ideas. I hope this can be a place that is real, making us better by sharing our successes and failures.
c) I hope it will help me to become a better writer?!
I am passionate about feeding and my area of interest at work has been to help babies of all abilities learn to eat as best they can. I think that mealtimes are a social event and it hurts me that this can be a time of incredible anxiety, stress, and anger for both a kid and parent. And sometimes, can even cause fighting between parents, grandparents, and others. There are many strategies that are readily shared after a child and parent get to the point where they don’t know what else to do and seek out help. I would like to share some of the tricks of my trade for mamas early in their parenting career in hopes that you don’t have to continue to work on picky eating for years and years, that these strategies are used right from the onset to prevent or minimize negative behaviors around mealtime.
On this blog you will see:
-introducing solids stuff
-progressing texture stuff
-mama health stuff
-Calgary resources stuff
-development and when to get help stuff