Sleep tools as I see it…

I didn’t mean to start this blog with a sleep related topic.  It just kind of happened.  The idea flowed from a few emails and a conversation that I had earlier last week.  I thought it would be useful to do a follow-up  post with sleep related resources that I am familiar with.

In my therapy days, my sleep-related reading consisted of general sleep hygiene, the recommended/average amount of sleep infants and toddlers need, and basic sensory-based environmental strategies.  In my parenting days, I have read and re-read these books and more, especially when my kids were/are in a “sleep challenging” period of time.  I also read because the sleep behaviour of my second baby was incredibly different than that of my first.  What worked with the number one was an absolute no-go with number two.  As you may have previously read, I’m still working on balancing my inner sleep schedule drill sergeant self (which for the record, has it’s place in the early days when you are establishing self soothing and sleep rhythms/routine/schedule, whatever you want to call it) and my go-with-the-flow, sleep-when-you-sleep hippy self.

I had a conversation with friends the other night about the “right time” to receive sleep information.  Pre-natal classes, for example, only scratch the surface of sleep-related issues.  The morsel of sleep information takes a back seat to the “how to rock labour and delivery” information.  At that point,  pain management and effective pushing trumps how to teach a 4 month old  to self-soothe.   I’m not sure what the answer is.  Regardless, I appreciate the birth of sleep consulting companies that are trying to address the need!

Before I launch into resources, please consider seeing your doctor if your child snores, sleeps/breathes with an open mouth or has a nasally sounding voice.  These are warning signs of medical conditions that need to be dealt with prior to attempting any sleep strategies.

Books:

  • Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child by Marc Weissbluth.  This tends to be my go to book for sleep.  The author presents a range of approaches instead of a cookie cutter model and the information spans newborn to adolescence. Quite honestly, I am biased towards this book because it is written by a paediatrician; as such, I trust that the information is based in science compared to something written by a non-health professional.  
  • The Sleep Lady’s Good Night Sleep Tight by Kim West.  The author’s background is in social work.  This isn’t an approach that worked for us but I can see it working for some babies.  She uses the “Sleep Lady Shuffle”  as the basis of her approach.  The staged “shuffle” is where a parent initially reassures and comforts the child seated next to the crib/bed.  The chair is gradually moved farther away with each nap/bedtime.   This is an oversimplification of the content of her book so keep in mind that it also includes good information on scheduling and routines.
  • The No-Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.  The author’s website described her background  as a parent educator and the owner of a family resource and education company.  In thumbing through this book at Chapters, I always get stuck on the passage describing crying-it-out from a baby’s perspective.  The vivid description of baby abandonment makes me feel like a terrible mother for letting my children cry at all so I haven’t been able to bring myself to buy it.  There seemed to be an emphasis on completing sleep logs to assist with developing a plan of action and track progress.   Sleep logs are beneficial to decide on the most appropriate strategy (or strategies) to implement.  Nap and bedtime logs are available for download from her website.
  • The Happiest Baby Guide to Great Sleep by Harvey Karp.  Some information in this book overlaps with “The Happiest Baby on the Block” and “The Happiest Toddler on the Block”.   The author covers a variety of approaches, some on the non-cry/sneaky side  and some on the graduated cry-it-out side of the spectrum.  He is a fervent supporter of swaddling, a strategy whose risk/benefit has come under question.

In my opinion, going to a workshop is far better than reading.  Logistics are more challenging; babysitters must be arranged, registration fees paid and schedules arranged.   Reading in a sleep deprived, frustrated state is of little benefit for me.   The result is either a puddle of  tears or head bobbing with exhaustion.   A workshop is far more stimulating.  Plus it can be date night.  Plus you realize how many people struggle with this.

The ultimate service is an  in-home consultation.  If you are in crisis mode and can pay the cost, don’t think twice.  It is money well spent.

Sleep Services in Calgary & Area:

Sleep Dreams

  • Sleep Dreams: This company is founded and run by an occupational therapist, Jennifer Garden.  Clearly, I am biased towards this option because of my OT background.  The benefit of hiring a sleep consultant with an occupational therapy background is their experience with sleep, feeding, sensory processing, toileting and motor skills.  Plus, you may be able to claim the cost on your benefit plan!  In home consultations are about $600 and include a home visit (1 – 1 1/2 h), appropriate assessments, a report with recommendations and follow up.   Jennifer also runs workshops through Brilliant Beginnings (look under Parent Support/Parent Education).   These workshops disseminate excellent info ration as well as allow opportunity for parents to ask questions.  Check out her website and facebook page for sleep tips and information.    Sleep Dream services will be expanding in the near future so keep your eye on their website.  

jammytime

  • Jammy Time:  I had not heard of this company before a few weeks ago and did a little digging earlier this week.  The company was started in January 2013 by Shan Roth,whose previous career was in education,  and is based on a program called Sleep Sense by Dana Obleman.  Dana’s website states that she has a BA in psychology and an education degree.  I don’t know much about the specifics of the program, but it sounds like Shan works with parents to provide an individualized plan tailored to their parenting style.  Her  in-home package costs about $500 and includes an hour home visit, a detailed sleep plan, 6 follow up phone calls in the first two weeks after implementation (each about 15 min in length), and one week of unlimited email support.

Kitty Raymond

  • Raymond Parenting: Kitty Raymond has worked in parent education for many years.  She has a reputation for a stricter approach (some may call this closer to a cry-it-out approach).  I do not have any direct experience with her programming so you will have to check out her site for yourself.
  • Birth & Babies offers a “Sleep Workshop for Tired Parents” at cost of $40/couple.  I have not attended this course in the past so can’t comment as to the content.

Sleep Services in Edmonton & Area:

Edmonton services are less familiar to me because I don’t have the same professional network here.  The following is what I have found after a brief search: 

  • Sleep Haven Sleep Consulting: run by an occupational therapist.  Offers one-on-one consultation.
  • Sleep Dreams:  As above.  Jennifer also provides services to Edmonton and area.
  • Soothing Angels: run by a maternity and child sleep consultant with training in “Gentle Sleep Training” program by Kim West and another trademarked sleep certification.  Offers in-home or phone consultation.
  • Sleep Matters: run by two pediatric physiotherapists and offers sleep classes.

Do you know of any other services  I have missed?

Have you read books or other resources you can comment on? Have you read any of the books listed above and had a different opinion?

Happy Friday!

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3 thoughts on “Sleep tools as I see it…

  1. Amanda says:

    Love reading your blog (also love the little picture of your girls snoozing away in a vehicle). I can relate to many sleep deprived nights due to a variety of issues. And how true is it that one child is so unlike the others. That is why not one parent can give the “right” advice to another. There are so many avenues and differences between children, parents and general lifestyle. Another book not mentioned is “On Becoming Baby Wise” by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam. It focuses on having babyie sleeping through the night by 7-9 weeks (mostly due to parent directed scheduling). I personally did try this out but didn’t have it within me to stick to a rigid schedule. First, I was too tired myself and didn’t have a second pair of hands at home to help juggle the strict scheduling. Secondly, the whole “cry it out” hurts my heart too much when they are so little. I do have friends that used this book’s techniques and all three of their babies were sleeping through the night by 9 weeks.

    • melissabw says:

      I’ve heard other people talk about BabyWise but not read it. There seems to be people that just love it and swear by it. I kind of wonder if those babies are ones that would have had the same sleep outcome regardless of the strategy used. I’m leary of it at 7 – 9 weeks….
      1) I wonder how they define sleeping through the night…a 5/6 h stretch?
      2) I’d be interested to hear what lactation consultants and dieticians think of this type of approach at such a young age… babes that young should definitely be cueing to feed overnight. I’d worry about the impact on breastfeeding too much.

      I hear you about having too much heart hurt for it at that age – I need to know that there is absolutely nothing that they need (i.e. hungry, dirty diaper etc) and they are just protesting the learning process/change before I can leave them cry.

      I like your idea about the “right” advice.

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